Choosing Your Sponsor

How to Choose Your Sponsor in a Support Group


You wouldn’t think so, but choosing your sponsor can be hard! It’s a tough decision choosing a mentor to guide you in recovery.┬áIf you’ve been through rehab, one of the most important things you should have learned is how to stay sober once you are back home, living your life again. There are several ways to do this, such as implementing stress reduction techniques, attending ongoing therapy sessions, and eliminating triggers.

But when you’re toughing it out alone in recovery, staying sober isn’t exactly an easy feat. That’s why it is also extremely important to get involved with a support group like AA for long-term help with your sobriety and to get a sponsor.

What is a Sponsor?

A sponsor is someone who has been solidly sober for at least a year. They will be strongly affiliated with Alcoholics Anonymous and gone through the 12 steps, making them ideal for understanding your position and the daily struggles you face.

Your sponsor will get to know you and your recovery situation to help you deal with the nature of addiction. Whenever you feel the temptation to use and don’t think you can stay sober, you can call them and they will help talk you out of using. Sponsors provide moral support as well as encouragement and are just there to listen when you need them.

Do You Need a Sponsor?

We highly recommend you find a sponsor. You’re new to sobriety, which will pose many challenges at first, and having another person to hold you accountable, offer support, and to be a motivator will go a long way in aiding in your sobriety. At least give it a try and see how beneficial a sponsor is.

How do I Choose a Sponsor?

Choosing a sponsor is a big decision. By taking into account the points below when selecting one, you will experience the benefits of opening up to another individual in this way.

Your Sponsor Should be the Same Gender as You.

Most people recommend that your sponsor be the same sex as you, so as not to cause unnecessary distractions. In short, your sponsor should not be someone you would date.

Your Sponsor Should Know the 12 Steps.

Your sponsor should have gone through the 12 steps themselves and should be firmly sober. Their philosophy for recovery should also match yours. Be sure your sponsor has the same values and the same view of sobriety as you.

Your Sponsor Should be Inspiring.

You want a sponsor who can inspire you in your sobriety, and motivate you to remain steadfast. Choose someone with a caring personality that you feel you can relate to.

Your Sponsor Should Have a Sponsor.

Your sponsor should have a sponsor of their own. If they do, this means they have a plan in place for when they feel weak. It also means there are more resources for both of you to tap into when necessary.

Your Sponsor Should be Involved With Service Work.

A good sponsor will be service-minded. They might volunteer time at a rehab facility, or welcome newcomers into the support group. They will go out of their way to help others, which means they will be willing to help you when you need it.

Your Sponsor Should be a Sponsor to Few Others.

Even if the person is an awesome sponsor, there is only so much one person can do. Don’t jump to ask someone to sponsor you just because you know they sponsor others as well. Be sure they have the time to dedicate to your sobriety needs.

Aloft Recovery Can Introduce You to an Amazing Recovery Community

Sponsors play a large role in recovery because they help people feel wanted and worthwhile. They motivate and encourage when times get tough, and they provide support when it is needed – just like a community, where individuals work together to accomplish a goal. Whether you have an addiction or you have a loved one who is struggling, getting a sponsor is an important step in the recovery process.

Aloft Recovery uses this community philosophy for drug and alcohol addiction treatment. Come see the difference a community can make. Contact us at (855) 478-1034 to learn why a sober life is right for you and how we can help you achieve it.

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